Yesterday, I went to the lake with a friend. We have been on a short break for 5 days so I decided to get some fresh air yesterday. While sitting at a bench admiring the evening, my friend suddenly told me about her latest problem. It started something like this...
"You know I've been with roommate with B for a while right?"
"Ya"
"Next week I am changing my roommate."
"Why? You guys are the same year right? She's going for early internship?"
"Nah. She requested to change room."
...
"Remember I told you about that big fight? After that she decided to switch room. I guess it's part of my fault too. We were close before practically like sisters; we do everything together. Both B and I started at the same time and then we come from the same state as well, the bond is already there. But, last semester, she befriended these bunch of friends and I sort of feel neglected. I got frustrated at her. Just imagine we always went shopping together then suddenly she prefers going out with them. It hurt me but I can't tell her and risk being perceived as clingy. The worst thing is, I don't have many friends. Last semester, I really felt lonely."
"Why didn't you tell me?"
"Dude, I seen how stress you were last year with projects and everything. I think without getting a help from you, you would instead give me a slap at the back of the head and ask me to move on."
...flashing a frail smile...
"But, I think it is for the best. I need to branch out anyway. More friends less alone time."
"Weh, I am not that mean ok? If you told me last sem you were in a rut, I would have help you. Never think you're alone. It's depressing and this freaking place has a lot of suicide potential area."
"Ya, ya I know."
On the way back to our rooms, we didn't talk much. Both our minds were preoccupied with our own thoughts. For me, her situation was similar to what I was experiencing last sem. The stress of the studies was just one part of it. But, me and my roommate kept it in until we had our long semester break. Now, once we are back, the past is in the past, we learnt from our past mistakes and try to build a more understanding relationship. One valuable lesson we learnt also was the importance of having many friends. Sometimes spending too much time together is not good. This sem instead of going out together all the time, both of us went out with other people as well. It's a way of branching out.
p/s: this story is not to bore you. Its just that a way to tell the importance of having more friends than you think you need. University life is already challenging as it is. There is no need to burden it more with unnecessary relationship problem. Just a thought ladies and gentleman.
Adiosa Samosa!!!
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